Why I’ve returned

To those of you who have just stumbled across my blog, welcome and be sure to peruse my backlog of entries as they remain as true to this day as they did when I wrote them.

To those of you who have been following me for the past few years, you’ve probably noticed my tendency to disappear and reappear at short notice and I feel that I ought to explain myself.

Most people work in the sex industry on an on/off basis for numerous reasons. The first one being, because we can. Even in brothels and escort agencies we are essentially sub-contractors or sole operators which means we have no employers to answer to. There’s none of the ‘Two Weeks Notice’ and contract agreements one finds in regular jobs. (That said, there’s also no superannuation or worker’s comp either. Bear that in mind if you find yourself thinking we earn too much.)

Other various reasons that pertain to me include traveling for months at a time, focusing on my studies and becoming burnt out. Burn out is another thing altogether with its own set of factors. When it comes down to it, I don’t believe that anyone with any insight or empathy would suggest that us hookers have an easy job, at least not in the long term. However it’s not the job itself that’s difficult. I like sex and conversation and the job enables me to get those two things on my own terms. And thanks to the legalisation of prostitution I can rely on the police to aid me if need be (which I have done before when I’ve been faced with stalker issues.)

The hardest part of the job for me is the stigma and the secrecy that comes along with it. It requires me to lie and keep secrets- two things I’m not good at. The longer I work the more these lies build up and weigh on my conscience. Sooner or later the weight becomes too much to bear leaving me no other option but to take a break.

Over the five years I’ve been in the industry these breaks have ranged from 2 weeks to 9 months.

The reason I am able to take long breaks is because escorting isn’t a career to me. I just escort because I can, because it makes sense for me to make the most of my looks and freedom while I can. At this stage, I don’t depend on it for my livelihood and my priorities lie elsewhere.

Of course I should reiterate that this does not affect my level of service, but it definitely affects my availability. I moved to Perth 2 years ago with the specific purpose of starting my escort business and I adjusted my lifestyle to suit. I was in a position where I was working from home and studying from home- I had no reason to leave my house except for grocery shopping and the gym. Thus I was able to offer much greater flexibility than I can now, with full-time studies and part-time work on my plate.

At this stage I’m not exactly back to square one, but I am starting out again still in some way. I’m playing it by ear at this stage but if the worst come to worst, I might have to go and work in a brothel where I can clock in, work 8 hours, then clock off. I’ll be sure to let everyone know if that happens.